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“But this stuff never happens to me”.

I love my roommate. I love her so much probably because she is so much like me. Except the strong fact that she is an introvert and I am an extreme extrovert. But I love that difference. We both desperately need each other in our lives right now even if just for conversation at the end of the day before we fall asleep. I need her to help me process things out loud and she needs me to verbalize everything she has processed in her head (unlike me, she actually thinks before she speaks). We both want to do some ridiculous things with our lives so we always talk crazy to one another.

One common sentence that I pointed out a few days ago from our many conversations is, “But this never happens to me”. Not only is my life spinning faster than I can keep up with, but so is hers. Lately she and I have many sad days, confusing ones, angry ones, frustrated one, and few excited/ happy days. And in each of those days it’s always, “But this never happens to me!” What in the world is going on?

Life.

My favorite sentence in the English language is “Life is seldom what you plan”. I love it and I hate it. I hate it because it is true. Yet, I love that I have still yet to really plan anything in my life. Even if I plan for something to happen and it does, the way I get to it is unlike any journey I could have thought about. And that’s what makes for a good life story right? Or even just a more interesting one than you had in mind. I think that’s the place where memories even come from. Why remember something you planned all the way through? It is not really the things we had set out to do in x, y, z way and in x, y, z, manner that we remember. It’s the remembering how you got to z by means of m and b and somehow h. Those are the things we laugh and cry and hurt and smile about when we remember our life. It’s those experiences that “never happen to me” that will happen and you will remember.

I can’t just say to you “Quit planning your life!” because you won’t. And neither will I. We must continue to dream and plan to a certain extent because if you want to live life you have always got to move forward. We should always be striving for that next phase, step, goal, dream, day or whatever have you. But just know you will never get there by x, y, z. Honestly, I think it is part of God’s humor. I would rather life be a journey and adventure anyways rather than a walk down the road.